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Strategies for Recognizing
Strengths and Affinities
To enhance a child/student's self-esteem, we
often need to find ways to allow the student to experience and demonstrate
success. One way to do this is by using a student's strengths and affinities.
Meet a group of children who are struggling with different aspects of school.
They all have things they are good at doing and things they love to learn about
and do, but they are still feeling discouraged. We've offered some ideas of how
these strengths and affinities can be used to help them experience success.
SAM
Sam struggles with his writing assignments. He can't remember what he wants to
say and even forgets what he has already written. Sam has begun to not turn in
his writing assignments. When he sits down to write, he can't organize his ideas
and keeps forgetting what he wants to say. Often he focuses so intently on
spelling, grammar, and punctuation, that he forgets his great ideas and
concepts.
Sam loves the zoo and anything to do with the ocean. He is looking forward to an
upcoming field trip to the local aquarium and has even studied the map to the
aquarium so he can see as much as possible. Sam gets along well with everyone
and loves to work on group projects with his friends.
Leveraging Strengths and Affinities:
 | Pair Sam with a classmate who has strong
writing skills for collaborative projects. For example, the team may write a
report on oceanography or another scientific topic in which Sam has some
expertise. Sam can provide the information while his partner transcribes the
report. |
 | Encourage Sam to keep an Idea Journal. He
could take notes while at the aquarium or zoo and write down interesting
things he hears, sees, or talks about with other people. Sam could then use
these ideas to write a report for the school newspaper or story for class.
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 | Sam's strong social abilities may be put to
use in improving his writing by having him collaborate with others to create
a play or a dramatic story that is then presented to the class, and by
working with classmates on writing projects and peer editing activities. |
LEROY
Leroy is constantly losing things. The first thing he asks in every class is,
"Do you have a pencil I can borrow?" He knew he had one when he left
for school, but somehow it disappeared. This seems to happen with most of the
things he needs for school-even his homework!
Leroy loves baseball and can remember the players and their statistics from all
of his favorite teams. He is a great mechanical problem solver and loves to take
apart appliances to figure out how they work. Leroy also likes to create new
inventions by combining pieces from different machines.
Leveraging Strengths and Affinities:
 | Have Leroy use his great problem solving
skills in the creation of an organizational system for the parts from the
appliances he takes apart. |
 | Make use of Leroy 's excellent memory by
helping him develop a 'personal stats record' for materials that he will
need to consistently remember each day. |
 | Encourage Leroy to consider, perhaps even
explore the comprehensive organizational agendas kept by professional
athletes and their teams. Even those who play for a living need to be
organized and have many deadlines and schedules. |
 | Provide an opportunity for Leroy to review
organizational hardware and or software that he may use at home and/or at
school to keep up with his work. Numerous electronic devices and software
are designed explicitly for planning and organization and are becoming less
expensive. |
 | Encourage Leroy to review the various
web-based homework management services that exist. Many schools use these
sites to provide students, parents, and teachers with a central location for
school-based information. Even better, Leroy might be able to play a role in
the development and design of such a system at his school. |
ELISE
Elise panics during class discussions. When the teacher asks a question, Elise
sits at her desk hoping she doesn't get called on. She has a hard time saying
what she is thinking and wishes she could disappear when everyone is looking at
her as she tries to get out what she's trying to say.
Elise does very well in art class and has begun to take an interest in graphic
design. Recently, she saw a graphic designer highlighted on a community news
show and thought it looked pretty cool. Elise also loves to write and spends
hours each week writing her thoughts and ideas in her journal.
Leveraging Strengths and Affinities:
 | Elise should use her love for writing in order
to prepare her answers for class discussions ahead of time. Elise's teacher
could give her a question that will be asked the next day and give Elise 24
hours to prepare how she would like to answer the question. |
 | Elise could also create posters, art projects,
and engage in a variety of activities that would help her receive
recognition for her strengths and affinities as an artist. |
 | Arrange a career mentoring situation in which
Elise is matched with a professional graphic artist in the community. |
JAKE
Jake has always had a hard time relating to his classmates. When other students
were speaking, Jake would interrupt them and try to do funny things that no one
but Jake found amusing. Jake still struggles to find the right thing to say and
does not have any close friends.
Jake loves to read and is an excellent reader. He also listens to a variety of
music and has a great memory for trivia, though he struggles to talk to his
peers about any of these things. When he does try to speak to them, Jake talks
about television shows other students don't watch, books they haven't read, or
activities they've never experienced. Jake is not bossy during these attempts at
interaction. Rather, the topics he brings up just don't interest his peers,
causing them to move away, and increasingly, to avoid him altogether.
Leveraging Strengths and Affinities:
 | Use Jake's excellent reading ability by
helping him locate a book or two with topics on social skill building. Such
an approach will allow Jake to investigate this area at his own pace without
feeling embarrassed or overly self-conscious. |
 | Encourage Jake to take supported risks to seek
out new relationships in more promising situations, for example, by
exploiting his existing affinities (e.g., reading, trivia, and music).
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 | Jake may be much more successful establishing
relationships with others who have similar interests, e.g., trivia,
books/literature, music. |
 | Help create a positive role for Jake in the
classroom. Arrange for structured situations in which he contributes to
classroom activities through his special areas of knowledge. |
NIKKI
Nikki has begun to dislike school. The only reason she wants to go is to see her
friends and to play on the school basketball team. Nikki has always had a hard
time with reading. While she can decode the words on the page, she does poorly
on reading comprehension tests and has difficulty remembering what she has read.
She used to read things over and over, but now she doesn't even try and she is
feeling overwhelmed by the demands in school.
Luckily Nikki is a great listener and has been able to get good enough grades to
stay on the basketball team, though she is worried that this won't last much
longer. Basketball is her love, and her skills are so promising that she dreams
of playing professionally one day.
Leveraging Strengths and Affinities:
 | Use Nikki's strengths and love of basketball
as a motivating factor for reading. Encourage Nikki to read a subscription
to a sports magazine and go on regular trips to the bookstore or library to
browse novels about sports figures. |
 | Allow Nikki to use her great listening skills
to use books on tape when possible for reading assignments. Nikki could make
her own tapes by reading the text aloud and then listening to her own
recording of the tape. As she listens to her recording, she could write down
the key pieces of information from the text. After she has written down the
key points, Nikki could reconstruct and paraphrase the text in her own
words. |
 | Nikki should think about subjects she would
really like to learn about or that interest her. Her whole class could work
on making lists of things they would like to know more about-whether it is a
place, occupation, or other content area. A teacher or parent could provide
the students with lists of what they are interested in and all of the ways
that they pursue that interest-things they read, do, or find on the Internet
related to their affinity. |
 | Nikki should be encouraged to become an expert
in an additional area of interest beyond basketball. This area could be the
focus of her reading assignments, written reports, oral presentations, and
other projects. |
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